Oh, the Places You Could Go… If You Only Knew Your Purpose!

Perhaps a play on famous words from Dr. Suess; but true nonetheless. Have you ever just “stopped to smell the roses” and suddenly realized you are in the middle of a crossroads? There you are, you had no idea it was coming and now you have to make a decision… Or maybe for some of you it was/has been a little less obvious. You question things now and then but never really give much thought to it; or at least not long enough to make you change anything in your life. Well, my friend, the time has come. YOU need to determine your purpose.

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Orrin Woodward describes it well in his best-selling book Resolved:

A purposeless-life is similar to a rimless basketball game – one can hurriedly dribble up and down the court; however nothing of any consequence seems to get accomplished. Doesn’t this describe the majority of people in the game of life? People running frantically back and forth in no particular direction, having no purpose, meaning or significance.

Orrin proceeds to describe how then, once a rim is added to the game of basketball, everything becomes much clearer and there is now a purpose for the game to be played. Much like our lives. We all have a purpose, something we live for, a source to our happiness, or our ambition in life. Autonomy, mastery, and character must come into combination in order to determine your purpose. Autonomy is having a desire to direct our own lives. Mastery is wanting to strive to improve in something that truly matters. Character is having integrity, courage and moral/ethical quality; being honest. Purpose can only be achieved when the three of these are combined. Purpose is doing what we do in greater service than for ourselves.

Orrin also describes a great way to aid in you determining your own purpose in life. By determining your passions (your motivation), potential (things you are great at – your strengths) and profits (your economic engine) you can then find the intersection of all three to be your purpose.

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I like this photo. A crossroads, unmarked, no destinations for you to choose until you, yourself, sit back and contemplate where it is YOU want to go; where you want to be in five or ten years. Maybe you have never wondered what you are truly meant to do; maybe you are content working at something you kind of like for money that “pays the bills.” And that is fine, if its your honest choice, and something you are happy to live with each and everyday. However, I believe we truly give up the right to complain about our situations the minute we choose to not pursue our purpose with our whole heart. Afterall, what would really give anyone the right to complain about something they CAN change but are just UNWILLING to change?!

“Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.” – John F. Kennedy

Still having trouble understanding purpose? I know I am still learning and trying to nail mine down more concretely, so here are a few definitions that may clear the muddy waters for you.

“The reason for which anything is done, created, or exists.” – Dictionary.com

“A target, an aim, a goal, a result that is desired; an intention.” – Wikipedia

“Something set up as an effort or end to be attained; an action in the course of execution.” – Merriam-Webster

Based on your own personal belief system, your purpose can come from philosophical, scientific or theological background/basis.

A great way to finish this up is leaving this poem for you to think on.

Our Deepest Fear 

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. 
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. 
It is our light, not our darkness
That most frightens us.

We ask ourselves
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? 
You are a child of God.

Your playing small 
Does not serve the world. 
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking 
So that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine, 
As children do. 
We were born to make manifest 
The glory of God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us; 
It’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, 
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. 
As we’re liberated from our own fear, 
Our presence automatically liberates others.

-Marianne Williamson

Keep Dreaming,
M

Long-term Vision, Pregnancy and Positive Thinking!

I’m no expert… Afterall, this is my first pregnancy. However, I have definitely learned and experienced a few things in my 8.5 months thus far. Now I know all you old, new and seasoned moms (maybe even dads) are all sitting there chuckling and saying “she ain’t seen nothing yet” or “pfftt, this girl thinks THAT’s bad?!” But, this is my blog 🙂 (the smile makes sarcasm more polite I’ve been told).

Pregnancy. Hmmm, so before I became pregnant my view was definitely… different. I thought it would be all “wine & roses.” That it would be eat anything you want, feel like a million bucks and look awesome in the process. Not so much…

Try: tired, like sleep on your keyboard with total comfort; sick, like throwing up in a grocery bag in your car is a totally normal and acceptable procedure even though you are not 6 years old anymore. Crying becomes acceptable in situations where anger or strength once sufficed. Public outbursts directed at semi-innocent ladies for stealing a parking space are also acceptable. Food allergies and adversions dictate what you and everyone around you can eat; so although you may very well crave ice cream, pizza, pasta or chicken that’s just too bad unless you want to be sick. And at the end of the day when someone questions your day/actions you say “I’m pregnant, leave me alone.” And they do.

Now all you guys and gals who have no babies yet are probably scared. Sorry. But my point here is that the 9 months of pregnancy can easily be compared to our everyday LIFE. We commit to things everyday some things small, others bigger and more long-term. Much like pregnancy, the knowledge that its possible you will encounter unwanted experiences is known when you commit to things daily. What I have found funny (for lack of a better word) is that YOU know where you’re going when you make the decision in both situations. That is: you know you will have a beautiful baby that will complete your new family and make everything you went through easily forgotten; much like when you achieve a goal you have set, it will make all the struggles along the journey that much more worth it.

We all set goals, plan pregnancies and set out on new ventures regularly. We know there are going to be struggles, but during those struggles if we commit to a good attitude we will make it safely and happier to the “other side.”

The difference from an outside view in these situations is another “funny” thing. Family, friends, coworkers and acquaintances are all very encouraging while you are in the ups and downs of pregnancy. “Think of the why,” “It’s going to get better after the 1st trimester,” along with other encouraging words. BUT, where the disconnect in support begins is when you are running for a personal or business/career goal; YOU know the end result, just as you do in pregnancy, and so do they; but when things get tough this time, they instead say “what if things don’t line up for you, do you have a plan then?” or “are you sure its really worth it?” and “you seem to be out a lot”  And other “well-meant” words. They would never consider saying these types of things as you face the struggles of pregnancy though, would they?

“If you have a Plan B you have convinced your subconscious Plan A isn’t going to workout.”

This has got to be one of my favourite quotes. Choose your path, stick to it and with vision in your heart and a great attitude in your mind nothing will stop you!

Thank you for following my blog and I hope that my journey as I relate my new experiences to Life, Leadership and Relationships will inspire you, even in some small way.

Keep Dreaming,
M

New Blog – Change is inevitable…

Well, the time has come… I have switched over to a blog that seems to be more technology-friendly. Personally, I love blogger.com; however discovered Blackberry Apps and more exciting things with wordpress.com that I couldn’t find/use with blogger.com.

So here I am starting this new blog. Feel free to check out my older posts at www.melissadrover.blogger.com if you may not have read them before. But from now on I will be posting all new ones on here. Also, don’t forget to subscribe (see right side bar) to have an email sent when new posts come out.

Thanks for following 🙂 New post coming very soon!

Keep Dreaming,
M